Showing posts with label Spanking round table. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Spanking round table. Show all posts

Wednesday, August 27, 2014

#Spanking Round Table: Evolution of Spanking Stories




Cara Bristol is hosting today's Spanking Round Table Discussion and the question is how have your spanking stories evolved since you began writing?


When I first started writing BDSM/spanking erotica/erotic romance, I wrote consensual scenes and more erotic spanking scenes than punishment ones. I wasn't out about this in my own life so all I had were my fantasies and some reading material - but as I was hiding it, I couldn't read everything I wanted to read in case my Kindle fell into the wrong hands. Back then, I didn't know there was such a thing as domestic discipline and in my naïve mind, no one spanked or got spanked for punishment or discipline, not as an adult. It just wasn't done.

The first pieces I published were with non-spanking specific publishers because I didn't know there was such a place as Blushing Books out there or that there was something specific for spanking and spankos and not BDSM and all that it contains. I didn’t even know spanko was a term! But throughout this time, I was honing my own interests, finding out what I personally liked as I wrote. Have I mentioned I'm fairly shy (unless I know you and feel good around you, then you wish I were more shy!)? Anyhow, I get embarrassed very easily and my writing reflected it at first. I censored myself a lot and it wasn't until I started to work with a spanking specific publisher that I truly got my hands dirty.

At some point during this, I found Cara Bristol's spanking fiction group on Facebook. I met some authors there and read spanking specific books rather than BDSM books and found that was what I liked, what I'd been looking for in all the books I'd been buying that were more BDSM.

It was then and from working with my editor that the spankings and the stories began to change. I wrote some plot ideas that were my publisher's ideas and those were different sort of stories than what I'd written up to that point. I remember two things specifically that made an impact on my writing. First was when my editor told me that the number of spanks I'd used wouldn’t be 'memorable' and that I needed to increase the punishment. I did that and in a way, that was the first almost permission I had to get a little harder, to peek behind that wall of self-censoring. The other thing was when I was writing Taken by the Beast. Kayla and Elijah were going to have sex for the first time but it ended up being in a bathtub so I didn't use a condom. I worried about that for a while and finally e-mailed my editor to say "He didn't use a condom. Is that ok?" I can't remember the exact response anymore but that was when I realized that I could let myself go a little bit. That I was writing fiction and fiction is an escape from reality.

Since then, my writing has evolved to more disciplinary and definitely harsher spankings and punishments than when I first started, and I feel like with every book, my imagination takes it one step further or adds another element to the spanking scenes that make it a little more naughty. My spanking scenes grow longer and longer and I still, after what has it been, a little over two years? I still love writing them. When I know I have a spanking scene to write the next morning, I'm happy. It's fun to do and I like to find what I think are my own limits and then push them a little. For example, medical BDSM. I never thought I'd do it. I was adamant in fact that it was 'not my thing', but then I wrote Given to the Savage and it's kind of become my thing! A plain old OTK spanking will never get old. You can tell that tale a hundred times and every time, I'll listen wide eyed and likely drooling, but it's interesting to watch what happens when I take my own censors off and just write what feels hot to me at the moment.


Thanks Cara and Spanking Romance Reviews for hosting this discussion and thanks to everyone for reading it. There are several other authors participating today so make sure to drop by and read them all.

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Friday, February 21, 2014

Round Table Discussion - The Evolution of a Spanking Relationship



Author Patricia Green and is hosting today's Round Table Discussion and her topic is Being of an Age and Spanking: a discussion about how one changes as a spanking partner over the years of a relationship.

I'm not really sure how to answer this one because we're so new to it, but it got me thinking. First off, my husband and I do not practice DD. It's just not a part of the dynamic between us. I pretty much just like to be spanked when I want to be spanked how I want to be spanked. Or so he says at least...and as of late, I must say, he's right.

I like to say that I'm submissive - and I want to be and am in many ways, but I also know exactly what I want and realized recently I'm not as flexible as I like to think on that. I read an article my friend Tracey shared with me written by Cherise Sinclar. I actually read it to pass along to my husband as it was about beginning domination (linked if you'd like to have a look at it). My take away from that was that he, as the dominant, gets to decide (she says it much better than I so go have a look at the article). Of course, I know that and yes, that's what I want. I want him to take over and dominate me. Yep - very easy. So he read it and we talked about it and I thought and thought about it. He made some comment about me wanting to be dominated my way and not really giving him room to come up with his own plan. He might also have called me bossy (or something else) in that conversation but I can't remember for sure...

In the last year and few months, we've had ups and downs but overall, we are closer and just more intimate together. I think we value each other more. We had a pretty good relationship to start with and telling him about my spanking desires brought us to an even better place. We still hit lows by the way and are not perfect, but where I see this taking us in the coming years is just closer together. I'm hoping as we talk and as we practice, we learn more about ourselves, about each other and take away layer after layer to get to the good stuff, the heart of this.

Maybe we push some boundaries too. I hope so. This whole 'you're only submissive when you want to be submissive' thing kind of threw me. It made me wonder if it was a lack of trust and in a way, it is or is partly at least. I'm hoping in the coming years I learn to trust him to give me what I want and need and I know he can only do that if I trust him to do it in the first place. Does that make any sense? I've said this before - everything has its opposite and both are true at once. This is one of those things.

Tracey and I have also spoken about submission and how in a way, you have to give your submission for him to be able to dominate. It's like someone has to go first and in D/s, it's the submissive (in my mind) and the submission that has to first be given otherwise it turns into something else, something potentially not good.

So, I rambled. I'm not even sure I answered the question on hand but it's where my mind is at the moment. If I can sum this up in one line: I hope in the coming years we are closer together because of this and yes, most definitely I hope to still have a nicely spanked bottom and just figure out together where we are going.

Please visit the other participants on today's discussion so make sure you have a look and visit them. The links are below. Thanks for reading and have a lovely weekend.